Respect and appreciate your Mother

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

 

بـــــــــــــــــــســم الله الرحمن الرحــيــــــــــــــــم

 

 وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْرًا حَتَّى إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَى وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ 

• And We have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with trouble did his mother bear him and with trouble did she bring him forth; and the bearing of him and the weaning of him was thirty months; until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says: My Lord! grant me that I may give thanks for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do good which pleases Thee and do good to me in respect of my offspring; surely I turn to Thee, and surely I am of those who submit.
  Qur'an 46(Al-Ahkaf 15)

• A man came to the Prophet Muhammad(صلى الله عليه وسلم)  and said, "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
• It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim)

• Action Plan

1. Make dua for your mother.
Read this dua often for both parents
[17:24] And lower for them the wings of humility, and kindness, and say, “My Lord, have mercy on them, for they have raised me from infancy.”
2. Give her some time off from her daily chores. Help her as much as possible.
3. Get to know you mother. Tell her to tell you about her self. Listen to her.
4. Call your mothers daily and try and visit her as much as you can.
5. Take your mom out on a date, just the two of you so you can spend some quality time with her.
6. If your relationship with your mother is estranged, mend it before it is to late.
7.Always remember your mother in law is your husband’s mother. Treat her with love and respect.
8. Find out what your mother’s interests and support and share in her experiences.
9. Give her a big hug and kiss on the forehead.
10. If she hasn’t been, take her for Hajj or send her on a well deserved all expenses paid holiday.
11. If you mother has passed away -- visit her relatives and friends and ask what you can do for them. Give sadaqah jaariya on her behalf, plant a tree, donate a water well, donate towards a masjid, educate an orphan etc.
Consider these two Hadiths (sayings of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him):

• The Messenger of Allah said: When a person dies, his actions come to an end, except for three things: a continuing Sadaqa (charity), knowledge from which benefit is still being derived, and a righteous child who prays for her or him (translated meaning from Muslim).

• Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah(صلى الله عليه وسلم)  when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).

• Anas ibn Malik(radiyallaahu'anhu) said, "A woman came to 'A'isha(radiyallaahu'anha) and 'A'isha gave her three dates. She gave each of her two children a date and kept one date for herself. The children ate the two dates and then looked at their mother. She took her date and split in it two and gave each child half of it. The Prophet Muhammad(sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) came and 'A'isha told him about it. Then Muhammad(sallallaahu alayhi wa salam) said, 'Are you surprised at that? Allah will show her mercy because of her mercy towards her child." [ Al-Bukhari; Adab Al-Mufrad, V #49 #89]

It's dedicated to all Mothers in the World.... May Allah bless and protect all Mothers, and give His Mercy upon them because of their mercy toward their children!
Aameen... Love you Mother